For the single lady or gentleman, Valentine’s Day (a.k.a. Singles Awareness Day) can stir up feelings of loneliness or unrequited love. All that PDA and chocolate-filled Instagram posts (and maybe even a proposal or two) can make even the most level-headed single person nauseous.
Though Valentine’s Day is typically thought of as a holiday celebrating romantic love, there is nothing stopping you from celebrating self-love or even love between friends. These five love-filled ideas will make you forget why you dreaded Valentine’s Day in the first place.
If you’re spending February 14 alone, forget the pity party. After all, we often feel our best and do our greatest soul-searching during moments of quiet, solitary reflection. Prepare your favorite dish (don’t forget some chocolate for dessert) and pour yourself a luxurious bubble bath. Pop some bubbly, light your favorite Bijou candle — or mix your own luscious scents — and escape into the serenity and bliss that is your own home spa. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t indulge.
Plan a fun winter outing with single friends
Chances are your unattached friends are wondering how they’ll spend Valentine’s Day as well, so why not do something fun to remind yourselves that life is so much more than one day. With winter in full swing, grab some hot chocolate and hit up your local skating rink or throw on your snowsuit for an evening of tobogganing and snowball fights. Whether you love winter or not, these playful group activities will bring you back to your carefree childhood days when serious decisions involved play dough and Lego pieces, not life partners and marriage proposals.
Hang out with your favorite four-legged friend
It is often said that the best therapist has fur and four legs. No one will ever make you feel loved quite the same way that your feline or canine companion can. So, show your furry baby just how much his or her love means to you by spending the day at the dog park or at one of your city’s pet-friendly cafés. If you don’t own a pet, consider applying to become a volunteer at your local shelter. Who knows? You might end up fostering or becoming a pet owner, after all.
Embark on a global adventure
In the Western world, Valentine’s Day is revered as a day of romantic love, but that isn’t the case everywhere. In Finland and Estonia, for example, Valentine’s Day is widely considered a day to celebrate friendship. So, pack your bags, grab your best friend and get ready to check off places on your travel bucket list. Before you know it you’ll be sight-seeing, eating exotic cuisines and, more likely than not, forgetting what day it is.
Try a new hobby, sport or fitness class
If you’ve been meaning to sign up for a cooking class or try your hand at Vinyasa, February 14 is the perfect day to check that goal off your list. Not only will the challenge of a new hobby distract you from all the lovesick couples mulling about, but you never know who you might meet. Pursuing your interests puts you in close quarters with like-minded people and, if they’re in the same place as you on Valentine’s Day, chances are they’re single! Worst case scenario? You make a new friend while learning a new skill and the two of you celebrate like the Finnish.
Being single doesn’t have to equal loneliness. Love yourself first and the rest of the world will follow suit.
About the writer:
Always a dreamer, Jill Bentham is a passionate writer and photographer based in Toronto.